I heard a fantastic quote yesterday that applies not only to the impending celebration of Father's Day, but as a general principle of relationship building.
Your not a success if those who mean the most to you, think the least of you!- Rabbi Shmuley
We have to take responsibility for the quality of the relationships in our life. It's not acceptable to lay blame on another for any friction between you and them. Momma always said, "it takes two to tango," and if we take an open and honest look at the rifts that have cause problem, they we either started or perpetuated by both of the offending parties.
It takes an adult to make the first move toward reconciliation. The absolute best way to win or overcome the confrontation that has risen between you and another is to repair the friendship. It's a win/win for both parties. I often point out to those who feel slighted by another, how bad they'd feel if the one they were mad at suddenly passed away, robbing them of the time to make things right. That's quite a burden to carry for the rest of your time here on earth. Wouldn't be easier to have an adult conversation and simple resolve the matter?
I'm not suggesting anyone sacrifice their principles. Just apply a little flexibility to whatever issue has the both parties all bowed up. Reasonable adults can find common ground with some open minded conversation. Here's the secret to resolving all of these matters.....Remove self from the equation! Lose the ego, selfishness, arrogance, and whatever agenda your bringing to the table. Replace it with a servant attitude, and the matter will be resolved.