"Have no fear of those who would harm you, nor be troubled, but in your hearts regard Christ the Lord as holy, always be prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ maybe put to shame."- Peter 3;14b-16
One of the valuable inputs I've taken away from Orrin Woodward is that when we are challenged with inquiries, even abusive ones, we answer with gentleness and respect. Even when they question our faith, we respond in a loving manner, as we are always representatives of our Savior. That's always been a sticking point for me, as when someone is malicious I've often responded in kind. It's funny how you learn to mellow your replies, especially when you have a system built around self improvement to rely upon. Age and information are incredible allies when attempting to acquire personal improvement.
We are called to make a difference, and to do so we have to behave differently. Stepping outside the norm of distortion, misrepresentation, overemphasis, and outright malicious deceit is how we win our victories. You find our strength and guidance in the Bible, and your examples in your mentors. Choose them with care. May I suggest the LIFE personal improvement program as a great start in this journey?